How to Talk to Guys: What to Say, What to Ask & How to Get to Know Him
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You like him. You’d love to get to know him. But apparently your brain has forgotten every conversation you’ve ever had.
How to Talk to Guys gives you opening lines, 32 questions, and follow-ups for talking online, on the phone, or through those first four dates. You’ll also prepare a few stories of your own—so when he says, “What about you?” you’re ready.
More than anything, these questions will help you get to know him, let him get to know you, and actually have fun along the way.
A 78-page downloadable guide to starting a conversation with a guy you like—and knowing what to say once you’re in it.
Inside, you’ll find:
- Conversation starters you can actually use at a coffee shop, at church, or on a dating app—including examples of what to say about something in his profile.
- 32 questions for those first conversations and first four dates, organized into four levels: the basics, fun icebreakers, getting a little deeper, and talking about your hopes, stories, and dreams.
- Follow-up questions, so you don’t get an answer and immediately think, Okay… now what?
- Ways to talk about your faith and ask about his without putting him on the spot.
- Four “Your Turn” exercises with room to write, helping you prepare stories about your life, friendships, adventures, and goals—because he’s going to ask about you, too!
- Practical advice for using the questions naturally, so your date feels like a conversation, not a job interview.
- Seven bonus prayer prompts from Every Single Moment for the hopes, nerves, and discouragement that can come with putting yourself out there.
Instant digital download. After checkout, you’ll receive an email with a link to download your copy.
This is a digital download. After checkout, you’ll receive an email with a link to download your copy—so you can start reading before your next conversation!
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Let's make dating less awkward, shall we?
You finally bit the bullet and downloaded that dating app—you even connected with someone you may be interested in. Or, maybe your best friend set you up with her cousin and you just introduced yourself over text.
Maybe there's a guy at church you’d love to get to know, and you’re looking for any excuse to talk with him. Or, maybe you’re about to go on a first date with someone you just met.
No matter which situation you find yourself in, you’re starting something new with someone new. You’re excited and nervous as you introduce yourself—things seem to be going pretty well!
But then you hit a wall. The small talk is over, so what are you supposed to say next?
Somehow (and you're not sure how!), you're supposed to calm your nerves enough to carry on a conversation where you can actually get to know each other.
Oh, and you're also trying to be funny, smart, and attractive—all at the same time (often, via text!).
"Check, please!"
Friend, if this is enough to make you want to throw in the towel, know that you are so not alone.
This is hard and totally daunting . . . unless you have a plan. And that's exactly why I put together this pocket guide.
'How to Talk to Guys' will help you...
✔️ Start a conversation with the guy you like—with actual examples for when “just say hi!” is not helpful enough.
✔️ Know what to say after the small talk runs out, including follow-up questions that keep you from hopping from topic to topic like you’re conducting an interview.
✔️ Have an answer when he asks, “What about you?” Prepare a few stories that help him get to know your life, your personality, and what matters to you.
✔️ Figure out whether you want another date. Learn about his family, friendships, everyday life, and hopes for the future—not just whether you both like the same TV show.
✔️ Talk about your faith—and ask about his without feeling like you’re putting him on the spot.
✔️ Take some pressure off those first few dates. You don’t have to figure out your entire future over one cup of coffee.
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How to Talk to Guys: What to Say, What to Ask & How to Get to Know Him
How to Talk to Guys gives you opening lines, 32 questions, and follow-ups for talking online, on the phone, or through those first four dates. You’ll also prepare a few stories of your own—so when he says, “What about you?” you’re ready.
More than anything, these questions will help you get to know him, let him get to know you, and actually have fun along the way.
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If you want to go a little deeper
Knowing what to say is one piece of this. Meeting someone you actually want to talk to—and making the most of your life while you’re looking—is another. Here are a few ways I can help.
For the days when you’re tired of wondering when it’ll be your turn. This 100-day prayer journal will help you bring your hopes and fears to God and enjoy the life you have now—even while you still really want to meet your person.
You want a relationship. You also don’t want to spend these years feeling like your real life hasn’t started yet. This course will help you build a life you love now and approach dating with more confidence, less overthinking, and a clearer idea of what you want.